Doljabi is more than just a game; it is a profound Korean first birthday ritual.
Doljabi is more than just a game; it is, in fact, a profound Korean first birthday ritual. In old Korea, the survival rate of infants was low. Therefore, making it to the first birthday (Dol) was a massive achievement—a true milestone that called for a huge celebration. Furthermore, this tradition wasn’t just about sharing cake; it was a powerful ritual to celebrate survival, announce the child’s triumph over past difficulties, and pray for their future health and destiny.
The Heart of the Party: Doljabi
The best part of the whole celebration is definitely the ‘Doljabi.’ I know, the idea of a tiny hand picking their life path sounds super intense, right? But here’s the secret: Doljabi was never about sealing their fate. It was a super heartfelt wish from the whole family. They’d put out cool stuff symbolizing long life, smarts, wealth, and all-around happiness, and just watch and hope the baby would touch one. It wasn’t about the result; it was totally about the good vibes and deep love they were sending out.
What Happens During Doljabi
At a Doljabi, a few special items are laid out on a table, and the baby gets to grab one—no help allowed!
Each item has its own meaning: a brush might symbolize a scholar, money means wealth, and thread stands for a long, healthy life.
Traditionally, people believed that whatever the baby chose could hint at their future path.
*Doljanchi & Doljabi
How Doljabi Items Have Changed Over Time
The stuff on the Doljabi table has changed with the times, showing what people valued most. Here’s a quick peek at the symbols:
| Era | Main Doljabi Items | What They’re Wishing For |
| Past (Farming Days) | Rice, Noodles, Raw Silk Thread | Wealth, full bellies, and a super long, healthy life |
| Past (Elite Class) | Brush, Book, Inkstick | Becoming a top scholar, getting a high-ranking job, being smart |
| Modern Day | Microphone, Stethoscope, Gavel, Mouse | Maybe a star, a doctor, a lawyer, or a tech genius! |
Remember, it’s not about the stuff itself. It’s totally about the massive hopes the parents have! Like, grabbing the raw silk thread isn’t just holding yarn; it means saying, “Live a long, long, healthy life!” Touching the money or rice? That’s just wishing they’ll be comfortable and never go hungry.
The True Value: A Random Pick, an Endless Wish
These days, Doljabi is a super fun, picture-perfect moment for families.
Sure, parents still grin when the baby grabs a judge’s gavel or a stethoscope—but the meaning is much more relaxed now. Doljabi isn’t some serious, fate-determining moment anymore. It’s a beautiful tradition that reflects a family’s deep love and support. It celebrates the baby’s health and happiness—whatever path they choose later. No matter what the baby grabs, the parents’ message is always the same:
“Whatever life you choose, we’ve totally got your back.”
And that’s exactly why this timeless Korean tradition continues to warm hearts today.
So… What Did I Pick?
I know, it sounds like a cliché ending—but yes, I picked up a brush!
My parents might have secretly hoped I’d go for money or books instead, but… well, here we are.
Turns out, I actually ended up in a career where I hold a brush (well, a stylus now)—so maybe there’s some truth to it after all!
Image Note _ A thankful treat for our special guests! I baked handmade cookies, perfectly replicating the symbolic Doljabi items on the table.